The Obstacle Is The Way (Book)

I got this book suggested by someone who used to be a D1 kicker on the football team in the ACC, built and owns a multi-million dollar business, is a scratch golfer, travels on the national squash team, and for fun plays tennis at a remarkable high level. He said that this was the best book he read for athletes and high-performers and re-reads the a couple times per year. Naturally I bought the book, loved it, re-read it, and made my Junior Davis Cup team read it in lead up to our World Championship….

Ryan Holiday, the other of this book, divides the book up in three main chapters: 1) Perception, 2) Action, and 3) Will. He subdivides each of these topics in smaller chapters where he breaks down the definition and provides examples of past leaders, generals, athletes, etc. who have lived these values. This book is very easy to read, the examples he provides are enjoyable and diverse, and a great book to take change your perspective on your job, personal life, and day to day. Enjoy!

From hero to zero – when leaders turn bad: Manfred Kets de Vries

Ted Talks is a non profit that gives are specialists in their field a stage and talk about their self-chosen topic. Topics range from psychology, nutrition, science, leadership, etc. Manfred is a psycho-analyst that does a lot of executive coaching. In his talk he talks about the pitfalls of leadership and how to become an authentic (and effective) leader. Manfred explains that many leaders struggle because of the power they receive. Their ego grows, people around them say what they want while at the same time they start listening less to others. To avoid becoming a leader like this he proposes in trying to be an authentic leader that fights narcissism and hubris. Get to know yourself and ask what meaning and legacy you want to leave behind he suggests. His advice? Improve emotional intelligence, stimulate your creativity, and create a culture of honesty and listeners.

Leadership with a Smile Managing Our Emotions as a Tool of Enacting Leadership (Article)

TThe European Business Review is the leading business intelligence magazine provides readers with indispensable insight, current best practices and breakthrough ideas. The writer, Dr. Marian Izatt-White, focuses her research around successful leadership on a day-to-day basis. In this article she writes about the balance of being authentic, while managing your emotions for effective leadership. The article provides real-world examples of instances where managers needed to control their emotions (such as in redundancies and disciplinary conversations) and when they effectively allowed for authentic emotions to surface. Preparation, having an outlet, and exercise are among the advises to control your emotional outlet in a professional setting.

How To Boost Your (and others) Emotional Intelligence (Article)

Harvard Business Review Press publishes the best thinking in the areas of business strategy, general management, technology, leadership, human resources and innovation. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has scientific research proving that increased EQ will benefit your job performance, leadership skills, entrepreneurship, and employability. This article discusses that EQ is trainable and malleable with focus and dedication. The writers provide five critical steps to improve your EQ: turn self-deception into self-awareness, turn self-focus into other-focus, be more rewarding, control your emotions, and operate with humility.

The Road to Character (Book)

The Road to Character is written by David Brooks; he’s an author as well as a political and cultural commentator. In this book Brooks tries to explain the essence of good character and how today’s world and evolving cultures have changed the outlook and perspective of the people. Brooks writes in his book that to cultivate character and strengthen your moral compass one needs suffering, love, humility, vocation, obedience and honest self-confrontation. These experiences and character traits are described in ten biographical summaries of historical figures such as Dwight Eisenhouwer, Frances Perkins, Johnny Utah, Michel de Montaigne, Dorothy Day and more. Brooks looks to bring back some of “the good ole’ days” that helped get where we are, while showing his disapproval and fear of the self-indulgent and narcissistic culture we live in today.

Emotional Intelligence in Sports (Article)

Athlete Assessment is a consultancy group that helps athletes with Sports Psychology. On their website they provide a “learning zone” part where they publish articles such as this one. Bo Hanson writes about emotional intelligence in sports, a way to control emotions and create peak performance on demand. Hanson continues to relate the four quadrants of emotional intelligence and how they play part in helping athletes and coaches succeed. 


Peak Performance (book)

This book is written by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness. Stulberg researches, writes, speaks and coaches on health and the science of human performance. Magness is a perfomance coach, author, and lecturer and is currently the Head Coach of Cross Country at the University of Houston. These authors write about how to attain and, more importantly, sustain a high level of human performance (both mentally and physically), whilst avoiding the pitfalls of burnout and underachievement. They draw upon examples in both sports and business and use those examples to understand the similarity in problems and solutions they share. The main topics addressed are: optimally alternating between periods of intense work and rest; developing and harnessing the power of a self-transcending purpose; and priming the body and mind for enhanced productivity.

Change Your Question, Change Your Life (book)

This book is written by Marilee Adams and it challenges you to think about the type of questions you ask (judging or learner questions). Adams claims with the right questions you stimulate innovation, productivity, and create more rewarding relationships. The book is written in a fictitious story line where a Ben Knights is struggling privately and professionally, but starts turning his life around when getting help from a professional. In this process he learns how to ask himself the right questions, how to become more of a learner rather than judger, how to use “questionthinking”, and more.